The Perfect Life?

      If you’re a working mother, you already know the woes of not being able to dedicate your life 100% to your child. You have probably had to explain that mommy has to go to work, and go through ripping them out of your arms so you can leave. Its heart wrenching and almost seems unnatural. Sure, you would love to be a home all the time, but in some cases it’s not feasible, or you’re a mother who truly enjoys her job and working. You are allowed to enjoy work and should not feel guilty about it if you do. Although we are mothers we are also human beings and need stimulation to keep ourselves happy. I realized you’re also allowed to enjoy that fact that work is a life separate from home. I love coming home to my daughter and the comfort of being out of the office and home, however home has responsibilities as does work. My day doesn’t end when I walk through the door because the other part of my day begins. Let me take you into my world…

My day begins with the alarm or my daughter waking me up and then trying to get her dressed while she is projecting a cranky mood. Meanwhile I am thinking in my head, “Sweetie I don’t want to get dressed and moving anymore than you, but guess what, you are!” Then I fight to do her hair praying she will watch TV for a moment and sit still. I throw in a waffle, yell for my husband to get up and jump in the shower. I get dressed, do my hair, while telling my daughter a three year old is not allowed to wear eye liner, and no it’s not a paint brush. I rush around looking for food and caffeine and attempt to feed her breakfast. Then it is out the door while running in once of twice for the phone I forgot or the fundraiser packet due. After dropping off at my parents or preschool it’s off to work. On the car ride to work, I begin to switch my brain out of frazzled mommy to my” To Do” list for the day in the office. After arriving home, it is back to the home life of cooking, cleaning, and parenting to name a few. If you’re a wife, then you’re trying to balance time or communication with your husband. I will be the first to admit that being a parent takes a toll on your marriage. At my job I am answering to many people and being pushed and pulled in fifty directions. When I arrive home, I am have a husband and child wanting my attention and relying on me to take care of them. It can be EXHAUSTING! I admit I don’t always respond the best way, and a lot of the times my child is the only one that gets my attention because she is still little. When my daughter goes to bed, I sit down and take a breath. Then I begin to think of all the little things I need to get done before bed. The list runs through my head; laundry, yellow shirt for school tomorrow, clothes for work, clean up the kitchen, feed the cats, clean the litter….and shoot I know there was more. After the completion of my list, I get an hour (more if I want to wake up tired) to myself. It usually is watching a DVR show I never have time to watch, or finishing up a book for the mere pleasure of hearing silence. There goes the alarm, and the day begins again.

**DISCLAIMER**every mom has a day like I do it just consists of different routines whether they work or not.

It actually makes me tired to read my large paragraph of my day, but in actuality I wouldn’t change my life if I could. I love being a mom and wife and most of the time I enjoy my job.  The main thing that I know I need to survive is support. My support is my friends, my family and my husband. What is the perfect life? I don’t think it exists…I think we make it as perfect as we want it to be by the way we live and handle everything it offers to us both good and bad. Some days are bad, the next day is usually better.