This blog is a scattered array of muliple issues I wanted to cover all together. I should use a disclaimer before I begin: This is not critizing or picking apart anyone's parental choices, opinions or in any way trying to stir up any upset. Thank You....
As my daughter now is almost 22 months (for those non parents who get made about the months in age, it means she is two months away from being 2 :), I have noticed that parenting has become more important and if certain issues aren't nipped in the butt asap, then I can see them becoming a problem. I am a mother who has read an array of parenting books and took bits and pieces of what I personally agreed with as pointers. I also know that every child and baby are completely different and you have to parent the way you think is correct for them in order to achieve positive results. My daughter use to have to be put down with my husband and I rocking or patting her to sleep. When I went back to work, I realized what a problem it was becoming because of the time consumption and her age. We decided to bite the bullet and spend a week of going through crying spells at bedtime until they went away. Now we can simply put her to bed and say goodnight. I think it is attainable for many toddlers, but I am not one to judge because everyone is different. As it has been brought to our attention by many, our daughter has a pacifier. I don't want to sound too pushy by quoting popular parenting books, but I agree with them that I don't see a problem until after two years of age. I will begin the process once she has turned two and that is my husband and my decision. Again, not a decision everyone may agree with, but we don't see the harm. These two topics seem to be most popular with other toddler parents so I wanted to address them first.
Next, we have the whole issue of when to medicate your child or whether never to medicate your child unless death is an outcome. I disagee with those indivduals who think medicine is the worst thing you could do to your children. I say this because if you have ever had the runs or a wicked headache, your thankful for Imodium or Advil, and why should our children suffer if the FDA and Pediatricans also approve? I have a stepson who is diagnosed with Autism and is on a medication, which helps improve his mood and actions especially while in school. Therefore he can learn and stay out of trouble less because of this which seems like a win win situation. He can calm down and his teachers get to concentrate more on teaching. My daughter recently went to the ER because she was dydrated from being sick, and was given Zofran (a drug by the way I lived on while pregnant or I would never have gotten out of bed) and she was able to drink and rehydrate herself. Again, I am not seeing the problem. Another quick disclaimer: I do not agree with medicating your child 24-7 for unessesary reasons.
I know your probably wondering what the point is of my blog so far? Well it is about our parenting and other's opinions about it. When should they be allowed to push their opinions on you? when should they not? My answer is this: If your physically causing harm to your child, their development, or well being, you may have a good reason to say or do something. If you amoungst a crowd or family members, probably best to just bite your tongue (I know I have done it so much I probably bit a hole in my tongue). Everyone is different, and it sometimes is hard to watch and hear, believe me I know, but it also is incredibly rude to state your claim to someone who didn't ask, or does not want to be lectured. All our children are different and no one knows child like you do.
"A two-year old is kind of like having a blender, but you don't have a top for it." Jerry Seinfeld
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