Nov 2, 2009

What happend to manners?


I feel like this article or guide is a definite "must read" for many people today. What happened to manners? I feel like as our world has progressed with technology and has encouraged people to have more personal pride which has in fact changed the way people act towards one another. I have come to the conclusion that people are unaware of manners, and how to act towards one another. If it is not taught and strictly reinforced as children, then as an adult it is non existent. I also feel people think manners only apply to complete strangers, or new people we meet, but not friends, family and significant others. It applies to everyone, 24-7, whether you are having a bad day or not. The absence of manners makes people seem unfriendly, rude and disrespectful.




I was personally brought up with a strict enforcement of manners, which I like to think I still carry with me as an adult. I will enforce strict manners while I raise my daughter for this reason. I have recently experienced many strangers, family members and old friends with a lack of manners, and it honestly angers me. How difficult can it be to be courteous to one another? Has our world changed so much in the past fifty years that we cannot seem to muster up enough self pride to portray ourselves in a positive manner? It especially makes me upset because I want to raise my daughter around people who believe in respect and manners towards everyone. As I embark on raising my child, I have decided she will learn all manners and be brought up to use these manners as common sense.


My marriage has brought such clarity to the fact that people disregard manners and respect. My in law family seems to be oblivious to the fact that when you say things hurtful, rude or disrespectful and you continue over the years with the same attitude, it only makes matters worse. I am not saying my own family upholds manners as they should, but I am tired of dealing with people who decide to always act on their own regard due lack of self control and manners. This leads back to my previous entry on the holidays and family. Is it fair to have your holiday season ruined because you have to deal with people who cannot sensor their words and opinions? Or are we suppose to uphold the manners that many were taught and respect and show we are the better person. Where is the line drawn?
How to Have Good Manners - wikiHow

1 comment:

  1. Great post--I'm continually astounded by people's general rudeness and lack of tact. Just the other day a woman berated me in the grocery store for ABSOLUTELY no reason, and it ruined my day, even though she was the one who looked like an idiot. C'est la vie, sigh...

    Hope you're well!
    Julia

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