Dealing with what seems to be the impossible

"Drag your thoughts away from your troubles... by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it." I like this quote because of its truth and simplicity. That is what we have to do to survive, isn't it? I mean every one's life is full of anxiety, troubles and moments of intense dis pare. How do you deal with it all the "right" way. What is the "right" way to handle these issues? If you listen to your heart, then it you can end up living with a elephant of chaos and unhappiness on your mind. If you don't listen to your heart, then you may live a life of regret. What is exactly the right answer, which of course we all know there is no right answer. It just seems that since our lives evolve constantly we are presented with new responsibilities and we ourselves change dramatically in the process. In marriage, couples are constantly changing and having to relearn one another for better or worse. What happens if you refuse to change for unknown reasons while your spouse is constantly changing and evolving. Then what? Do you bite your tongue and continue to try to help them see that things are required to change, or do you evaluate your life based on the needs of your children and your needs that nurture your well being as a person. I think so many things change our lives, whether it be intense financial difficulties, refusal to accept adulthood and the changes that accompany it, or the simple fact that you have no idea how to understand one another.

My life has not been easy, and I won't complain or act as if I didn't have an amazing childhood and great parents who gave me more than I deserved. I dealt with my mental issues which at one point ruled my life, my heart and my destiny. At the blink of an eye, it all changed due to my little girl. It was no longer me, or my problems, it was how to provide and be there for her. You can save it was my salvation, or a gift from God. I like to think God gave her to me to save me. Which she has, because now my brain thinks only of her and not about me any longer. However if you let yourself diminish based on that statement, are you failing at giving your child the best?

and does it make you selfish to identify that you have to take care of you to be there effectively for her? I think men and women differ in these ideas, because a husband or father will never understand the full concept and love of a mother to their child. They of course has an idea because women will never get the father and child bond. I have found the ultimate point of confusion is helping manage your life better and also putting your child first.

I have changed so much over the years, it makes my head spin. I think of the selfishness that I allowed overtake my life for a period of time, and the need to help and fix people I fell in love with. As I figured out, it never works in your favor, and you end up running yourself down instead. When you take a chance on someone and they abandon everything you hoped and knew about them, where do you go from there? Is it possible that all the scars can never be healed, and if so is there a way to move past them?

Everyone is quick to blame another, when in fact everyone is at fault. However I sometimes feel that people are more at fault than others, when the the other person actively tries for a long time and nothing changes. As I am Catholic and religious to an extent, I feel maybe God will step in and turn us in the right direction. God gave me my baby girl, and she changed my life forever for the better, so my hope and trust in him as become much stronger. I hope things in life improve so I can continue to strengthen my faith and hope.