The Friendship Crisis: Making and Keeping Friends as an Adult

The Friendship Crisis: Making and Keeping Friends as an Adult

This was an interesting brief article I found interesting. I recently have gone through a friendship crisis and lost a friend in the process. My personal belief is that it is difficult to be friends with other women. I don't think the entire high school mentality has gone away even as an adult. Women are always going to judge, be jealous, and communicate differently. I always hope as girls grew into women, this story would change since everyone is an adult now. However we all know being an adult doesn't make you responsible or any more knowledgeable about friendship. I think it is a constant struggle many women don't discuss or address. It makes you feel low or unlikeable if you discuss how you have no friends, or how you feel lonely. If your fortunate, you have old friends you can always call and have forever. However, as your life changes, so do your interests. A prime example is having a baby, and how you need to meet other mom friends so you can how a comrade in your baby stresses and stories. On the other hand, you don't need to discriminate against your other friends who are not mothers, because sometimes putting baby talk on hold is a breath of fresh air.
I was always a fan of having male friends (always less drama), but when you are married male friend are not inappropriate, but some situations may feel inappropriate since you are a married woman. This puts a rift in your life if you are like I am, and like having male friends. I always hear stories from my girlfriends about other girls and how they don't understand one another. I wonder why over the years women never seem to change? My only advice to myself and others is to choose your "friends" wisely and choose the information you share with them. Not all friends are good friends, and it will be a trial and error experience in finding the right ones.